"I was getting something from it as much as I wouldn't want to admit," Liza explained.
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As the San Francisco Examiner reported last year, some women create Grindr accounts to "experience 'gay for play,'" catfishing men with fake shirtless photos in order to explore the "relaxed norms of queer male culture." For some women, the article states, making a fake Grindr profile is alluring for two reasons: It's taboo because it can never result in a real-life meet-up, and and most importantly, gay sex apps are much more straight-forward (no pun intended) than heterosexual dating apps. Some straight girls, however, make Grindr accounts for decidedly less academic purposes. "Basically, I came for a study on the despacialization of cruising, stayed for the hot pics," she added. Now, she only refers to her gender obliquely: Her description reads, "i'm a tryna get with bi guys. Read More: Why Do Teen Girls Like Gay Porn?įor the most part, Adriana said, she's had good experiences on the app-although her profile was removed once for violating the site's terms, which she assumes was because she's a woman. She and her two Grindr dates went on to have a threesome, she said, which was great because being double penetrated is "like being in a warm bed made of men, and it's also plugged into your nether regions like an electric blanket that's like electrified by you… It's like you're the outlet that provides the electricity, and they plug into you and become warm and soft, and you lay between them, and it's, like, amazing, bro!" It was like an eclipse."Īdriana got an MFA in poetry at Sarah Lawrence, which becomes quite apparent when she describes her Grindr trysts using elaborate metaphors. It was, like, white-hot, and I had to look away. It was my first time watching a dude do anything with another dude, and it was so hot that I had to look away. "So he brought the dude over, and I watched them give each other head. "I was like, 'Oh my god, I've waited for this moment my whole life.' I've always wanted to have like a two man three-way," she said. Adriana recalled their time together with glee. The dude is straight."Īt one point, the straight blowjob enthusiast invited a friend over, also straight and a blowjob enthusiast. "I was like, Really? If you like a dick down your throat, you're obviously not straight." Now she sees his sexuality in a more nuanced light: "Like, yo, I realized that that was my internalized trying to classify people, and it defies classification.
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"He doesn't have sex with men he doesn't kiss men he doesn't do anything with men except exchange fucking oral, like crazy deep-throating oral," said Adriana, noting that she was confused by this designation at first. One of the men she met on the app identifies as straight, just very enthusiastic about giving blowjobs. To date, she said, she's met up with three men from Grindr in person. She started out by messaging guys who caught her eye ("I'd be like, 'You're so hot, sorry I'm a girl.'") and then decided it was better to wait for potentially interested men to come to her.
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"'Cause I'm queer and, you know, I'm into that shit."Įventually, Adriana downloaded Grindr after hearing that her friend-who is genderqueer, into the fetish scene, and tattooed with the phrase "NO REGRETS" under both of her butt cheeks-had had a good experience on it. "I noticed that every time I looked at a dude's profile, if it said he was bi it was like way more alluring than if he was just straight," she told Broadly. In that span of time, she estimates that she's met over 300 men in person. At first blush, it seems like a terrible place for a woman to look for sex-but Adriana insists her time using Grindr has been very fulfilling.Īdriana is no stranger to online dating according to her, she has been using OkCupid for about twelve years. Grindr bills itself as "the world's leading social app exclusively for gay, bi, and curious men." It is a geosocial networking app, or, more succinctly, a convenient way for men to find nearby men to fuck.